They say, “Time heals all wounds” but, they forget to mention the scars that the wounds leave behind. They forget to tell you about the PTSD, the sleepless night, the ability to never trust again, the toxicity; in other words all the behavioral tender scar tissue that’s left behind from the wounds. The wounds that are created by traumatic life experiences, the experiences that change the very thread of our being. Nothing in life is ever the same after we survive through situations that should have killed us. Experiences that causes our hearts to turn into ice boxes and our dreams to now become nightmares. That is the life I know, that is the only living I have ever experienced, the life of a survivor and I don’t know too many people who could even tie the laces to even begin walking in my shoes. Shoes that are too big for most and that’s fine because these shoes, this life belongs to me. However, the hardest tragedy to live through is and has been the traumatic loss of losing my fiancĂ©e while I was seven months pregnant.
It’s sad to say that for days I cried and prayed and turned my faith on high believing that GOD was going to bring my John home. But, one night when I was praying I asked GOD, “…if John is never able to come home. GOD give me your strength and power to heal through this.” I had spent years working in hospice and the message was always the same after each death; the only thing promised in life was death. Although, it had been years since I said a prayer, years since I walked into church, and years without me mentioning Jesus’s name; my soul knew that I was going to need GOD so I listened to my soul.
As a child, my greatest memory was church. I don’t think there was a Sunday we ever missed. I would watch my mother fake smile and fake laugh and pretend to be this loving woman. Yet, the moment we got home life was not the pretty faced picture she painted in front of all the “saints” at the church. I grew up believing in my heart that church was just as fake as my mothers smile. I never seen healing and happiness come from the church. So, when I became older and decided that my life belonged to me, I suffered in silence and found creative ways to deal with the trauma and even more creative ways to hide the scars that were left behind.
I’m sure you’re reading this trying to understand, “Why GOD?” My answer is at first I tried everything but him. I tried on my own to find my own healing whether it was through meditation, new age spiritualism, learning an instrument, learning how to box, singing, dancing etc. the list goes on. While I tried my hand at everything I could, I never truly tried GOD, I never truly gave him a try and while I was losing my fiancee, I was finding my faith and GOD had answered my prayer. He had given me a strength and a power like I had never known before and it didn’t take years to get there… it just took a small bit of faith, the size of a mustard seed (Luke 17:6), faith that I took time to water, love and feel and in return my scar tissue is fading away. I have never been able to truly trust anyone or anything but, the way GOD caught me before I hit the floor. The way he comforted me in the midst of my sorrow and more importantly the love and the peace that he’s given me through such a time as this, is beyond anything that I have felt before.
I didn’t find GOD behind the walls of a church but, I found him in my secret place, my place of brokenness. I never knew he was there waiting for me, like a parent awaiting their childs’ return. I was truly the prodigal child and all of heaven rejoiced when I asked GOD to accept me, his response was simple, ” I’ve been waiting for you.” Thankfully, through GOD I was able to find a church that believed in healing and transformation. Actually, it is more than just a church but a hospital for the soul. A place where GOD resides and his blessings and favor is our portion.
I am more than grateful that he heard my prayer but, I am truly blessed because he heard my heart. It was the cries of my heart that reached the gates of heaven before my words ever could and all these years I could have spared myself so much aching pain and sleepless nights if I just called upon him. I never took the time to stop running from him and the whole time he was running after me with arms wide open. GOD has provided me with everything that I had ever needed and that was everything he promised, “…A spirit of peace, power and love.”(2 Timothy 1:7) I am alive and thriving because he seen that I was worth it. I am forever in his debt, I will forever praise his name because, his name is worthy to be praised!
As I close out my truth; I know there is someone who’s reading this thinking, how can this be true. How can a man living in a cloud be the greatest thing to ever happen to me after experiencing such trauma. Well, my words to you is this, ” Greater is he that is within me than he that is within the world.” GOD is a gentle surgeon and he doesn’t live on a cloud but he lives within and the moment you decide that you want to feel again, the way you felt before tragedy hit, seek ye first the kingdom of GOD and he will show up and he will bring the cavalry.
Why GOD, you ask? Because, WHY NOT GOD…